At secondary school I was a very naïve person and that’s quite hard to admit.

As a teenager I thought I was happy in myself, foresaw my future and everything that I wanted to do. I saw people in their 20’s as picture-perfect. I saw them as people who had their lives all figured out. Those people seemed to reflect how I saw my early 20’s being, with a place of my own, a full-time career on lock that I wanted to pursue and have my life all figured out. I’m just about to turn 22 and I am far from what I want for my life, and that’s ok.

Right now life is moving at a million miles per minute and as scary as that is, it’s a good thing for me. Living life in the fast lane is fun and although the pace of life is giving me anxiety beyond belief, it’s helping me try and figure things out.

I finished University earlier this year, mid summer, and I’m still living my life exactly how I was then – but with more hours at work and less time writing essays. Although it sounds like heaven, its quite a hard time when you’re stuck in a rut with what to do.

After the first month or so of being student free I had more worry in me than I do now and the reason for that is time. Time can only tell my future and give me what I want.

I’m one of those people who won’t take a job, pursue a hobby or change my life if I’m not sure its going to benefit me. This mind-set has come alive over the past year or so whilst in my final year at Uni, and I kinda wish I was that person back in school – a little too late but I’m finally there.

If you want to better yourself to be the best version of you I think it all comes down to patience.

For most, school is a time of confusion but also hope. It’s a time that allows you to grow into the person you want to be but sometimes it doesn’t always pan out the way you thought it would. For example, I left University totally unaware of the ‘real world’. I’ve been in education since the age of 3 and I never understood what it was living day-to-day life without it. I became reliant upon education and found it to be an outlet where I lost myself and never had time to think what I wanted to do and who I wanted to be.

This time off over the summer has really put things into perspective for me and here’s how…

Making my own decisions. This one is very simple in the grand scheme of things but in my world it was actually a very hard thing to do. I am a very very indecisive person and throughout much of my teens I always let others decide for me. 1) It was just me wanting to put others happiness before mine and 2) I never felt mature enough to make the final decisions in case it went wrong, a.k.a. I was terrified of failure.

Failure to me was a no go zone. I never wanted it to happen to me and when it did, I would have a meltdown. Little did I know that with failure can come great success and this is something I came away from University knowing and being forever grateful for. You have to have some trial and error in your life to see results and see if things work out. So finally being able to make my own decisions and say yes without hesitating was a big step for me.

A teeny tiny thing can make the world of difference.

Learning how to be patient. Having time off sounds fun but for someone who likes to be doing things pretty much every hour that I’m awake, it can be quite the opposite. Even though my job isn’t full-time, I use up my free hours with stuff that needs to be done. I can’t sit around on my butt all day and watch Netflix, not even at the weekends and I sometimes wish I could.

Having more free time on my hands meant I had time for a lot more uneasy foot tapping and thinking, and at first I let it get me down.

However, since realising that time is my virtue I’ve been a lot calmer about the whole idea of waiting. Waiting for the right thing to come at the right time. Thankfully, this waiting and getting on with my passions has led me to be a much more patient and relaxed person, which is something I’ve always wanted to be. With patient comes time, which really can bring great things after all.

Filling my time with more ‘me time’. As I say, for 18 years of my life I’ve been in education year in, year out and as much as I loved learning and educating myself on the world, I never educated myself on me. I never sat back at thought thoroughly about how I could realistically make my life what I want it to be.

Throughout school I was that naïve person who thought my career and my goals would be given to me on a plate, just like how we were fed information at school, I thought it would be the same on the outside world once education was finito. Of course, it doesn’t work that way. You have to work for it. You have to have a plan, an idea and an end goal that is realistically achievable.

I now have time to think about me and where I want my life to go. I find myself planning out the next couple of years with more attention to detail, which I hope will pay off in the long run. I’m now an adult, I’m now mature enough to be less naïve and ignorant to the real world and become a better version of myself, the person I really want to be.

As the hun, Lana Del Rey sings, “Doing what you love is freedom. Loving what you do is happiness.”

 

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With the weather constantly changing and the time of the year nearing autumn, my mood has been changing more than ever. Some days I’m all raring to go and get sh*t done. The next, I’m wanting to curl up in bed and drink tea all day. It really is a constant cycle, one that I was finding it hard to get out of.

On those days I just wanna curl up in bed I have to tell myself there’s more to life than letting your mood reflect the weather outside. I’ve actually made myself excited and prepared for the darker nights to come, the pumpkin spice lattes and cosy blankets.

I think at heart I am a summer girl. I love the sunshine, the mood it makes you in and being able to throw on a dress and flip flops and head straight out of the door. I used to feel confused by those who would say ‘ooh I can’t wait for autumn, all the darker, cosy nights in’. To be totally honest, I’d think they’re a bit confused and wonder why they would happily say goodbye to summer.

Now I’m finally starting to get it. With autumn almost here in just a few weeks I’ve decided this year I’m seeing the seasonal change as a positive and taking it in my stride.

Autumn is coming and, for once, I can’t wait!

So a few days ago I sat down and wrote a list of the things I can’t wait for this coming season and the for that is 1) to get me in the mood and 2) see that there’s joy in every season.

I want to make myself more of an autumn lover. I want to love wearing big cosy knits and colder weather. Bu,t one thing I will never love is being ice-cold weather whilst you’re stuck outside. I love to snuggle up under the covers when it gets to that time though, who doesn’t?

Here are the things I am going to enjoy more this autumn…

01. Sitting under the blankets instead of sitting out in the garden. I have to admit (you may have already gathered) that I absolutely love being warm. If it’s cold outside I don’t mind as long as I’m warm inside. Whether it’s sitting in the hot sunshine or sitting under the blankets watching films, my body just adores warmth. I’m going to embrace the colder weather coming and take full advantage of my new blankets, watch Netflix and drinks lots and lots and lots of tea.

02. One thing I’m going to try and make myself enjoy is being indoors more. Some must think I’m crazy when I say I love to be outside, doing things and getting buy doxycycline hyclate 100mg fresh air. Sometimes, if I have nothing to do I often walk to town even to get a coffee or just have a little look around. Many would think I’m mad and probably much prefer sitting on the sofa binge watching Netflix. Now the autumn is coming I’m going to have to get used to the colder, more miserable weather and enjoy being indoors and snuggling up on the sofa. After all, that’s what the autumnal change is for right?

03. I never used to feel comfortable wearing big knits. A year or so ago I’d be more than happy to wear thinner, tighter clothes and just try to layer them up. More often than not I’d be freezing cold once I was out and about and really regret my decision. Now, I’m all about styling up my wardrobe and I think chunky knitwear is going to be a thing for me this year. I’ve already filled my online shopping baskets up with gorgeous bits, and chunky jumpers/jumper dresses are right up there on my wish list. Get ready for all the autumnal dressing, I’m already working out my outfits.

04. The seasonal Starbucks menu – don’t even get me started. Yes, I am one of those girls who loves a Pumpkin Spice Latte. But seriously, how could you not? The autumn and winter Starbucks menus are my favourite of all and I cannot wait to start sipping on many PSL’s, all day every day if I could.

05. I find being productive a lot easier on those cooler, greyer days. When the sunshine makes an appearance I lose all motivation to do much else other than be outside. So, the autumn months will sure bring back 100% (maybe 90% with all the blanket snuggling and tea drinking) motivation. This is a huge YES for me now that I’m going back to daily blogging.

06. Every single year I buy more and more deep lipsticks and never get round to wearing them very often. This autumn, I want to embrace them. I’m all about fresher face makeup at the minute and I hope this love continues as its easier, quicker and I feel a lot better wearing less face makeup. So, a bold lip or a bold brow is what I want to make a thing this year. I’m going to make sure when I’m heading out I try and pick a different lipstick or gloss over the standard nude. It’s a challenge I’m giving myself and I hope I succeed.

What are you looking forward to this autumn?

Megan ?

 

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Hello lovely people of the Internet.

How are we all?

I’m currently sat here typing up this post in a coffee shop, not knowing exactly what the rest of day will bring, but one thing for certain is that I want it to be productive.

As we all may have noticed, productivity and motivation comes and it goes and sometimes it’s blimmin’ well hard to get back, right?

Finding your own motivation can prove to be so difficult when you’re really not in the mood, cant it? Trying to get things done when you feel a bit meh is never fun. But thankfully I’ve found a few ways to tackle that meh feeling right down to the ground and so far, a few simple steps work for me every time.

Over the weekend I was feeling a bit sorry for myself and decided to spend a whole day sleeping, eating, sleeping, drinking tea, eating – you get the idea. Those kinda days is what I live for when I’ve been SO busy I haven’t had a chance to stop. But if my week has been somewhat okay and not too demanding, then I like my days (whether or not its the weekend) to be fun-filled and productive.

I didn’t let this ‘feeling sorry for myself’ ride out for too long because do you know what I hate, an unproductive Monday that spirals into an unproductive week. So I decided to give myself a kick up the butt, down to town, grab some coffee and get some stuff done.

Since graduating from University and still working my part-time job, the day time always holds something different. Not much happens unless I make it basically. Don’t get me wrong, I love the time off and freedom I have BUT I’m not the sort of girl who will willingly laze around all day and not get anything done, I just can’t do it.

So, if you’re the same, I hope this post will give you a little push if you’re finding it hard to motivate yourself.

If my day holds 0 plans, I know that one thing I need to do is something productive. As I say, I’m not one to sit in all day on the sofa binge watching Netflix (I leave those things till the weekends). I’m the sort of person that needs to get into bed at night happy with everything I’ve managed to  get done.

Therefore, first up is a daily checklist. I recently bought myself a weekly planner from Sainsburys. No word of a lie, this little guy has saved me a lot. I sit it on my desk at home and it doesn’t move. This way it stares me straight in the face every time I sit at my desk and means I’m always reminded of what I need to do.

It breaks down the week by days and you tick off the list after every day you complete. I tell you, those little ticks are oh so satisfying.

Some generic doxycycline 100mg days it can be full with little errands that need to be done. Some days it’s taking blogging pictures and some taken up by other things. It’s my reminder to get stuff done.

Also, Sainsburys stationary are really killing it right now.

I’m being honest with you saying that not everyday is easily productive or practical. Some days I try not to even look at my list at all and try and hide away. Those days where I have no motivation to do much at all are those I find myself a new space. When boredom overwhelms me I get incredibly frustrated. I’m sure many of you understand.

Take today for example, I’ve found myself a coffee shop, drinking a coffee and nibbling away on some sweet treats – I hardly ever go to town to do just that. I usually sit at my desk at home to do work (sipping on coffee or tea there to). But for some reason I just couldn’t focus today, so I took myself down to town and set up my laptop there and IT WORKED. I’m definitely doing this more often.

I set up my new ‘office space’ at home to get a new work environment and it really does the trick when I need to focus. If you feel uninspired in your setting every so often, try going elsewhere and see how much more you focus.

No matter the season, us humans find some way to try and procrastinate. For me, the summer is a time where I lose a bit of ‘work life’ motivation but only when the sun is out – so not very often this year (not quite sure whether to see that as a negative or a positive, I’ll go with the latter).

To make the most of my productivity I follow what the weather is doing and work around it. I’m one of those people that HAS to be outside if the sunshine is out. Even to go for a walk or take my work outside, I love being outside when the weather is nice. You’ve gotta make the most of it haven’t you? So my tip is to make the most of the weather situation.

If you love the sunshine like me and find it hard to be inside then take your work outside. Sit in the garden and take your laptop, your books, whatever it is you need to be productive.

Alternatively, if it’s wet and miserable outside I’ll cosy up in some comfies (slippers and sweats all the way) and will set up my little desk space. As annoying at the British weather is, don’t let it get in your way!

There you have it, my tips that have really helped me along the way when I’m in a meh mood and struggling to find some motivation. A few simple things really make the world of difference I tell you!

What are your favourite ways to get yourself motivated?

Megan ?

 

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